Judge John Hodgman Episode 51: The Wedding Clashers

| 5 comments

Lindsay and John are a married couple locked in a bridal brouhaha, having been invited to a pair of weddings that fall on the same day. John wants to go to his childhood friend's wedding by himself, leaving Lindsay free to attend her cousin's ceremony. But Lindsay believes they need to pick one and show up together.

Will the Judge find in favor of family or friendship? And will these lovebirds stick together, or fly solo? Find out the answers to all this and more on an all-new Judge John Hodgman.

STREAM OR DOWNLOAD THIS PODCAST
SUBSCRIBE TO THIS PODCAST in ITUNES or the RSS FEED
VIEW THE EVIDENCE

EVIDENCE

From John:

John (in the striped polo) and the friend in question (foreground), taken six years ago, as proof of their on-going friendship.

A picture from John and Lindsay's wedding, as evidence of John's friend's attendance.

The 'Save The Date' for John's friend's wedding.

From Lindsay:

Lindsay and her bridesmaids (cousin Shannon included) at her rehearsal dinner.

A formal photo of Lindsay's wedding party.

Listen Now
Embeddable Audio Player Code (Copy and Paste)

Comments

Which wedding?

This is the first time I have disagreed with the Judge. I don't think cousin should automatically trump friend or friend trump cousin. I think it all comes down to the fact that they AGREED to attend the friend wedding first. Any other wedding that came up after that should have received a polite, "Sorry, we already have a commitment for that day." If the wife wanted to back out and take her children to the cousin-wedding, and the hubby had no problem with it, then so be it.

Re whip sound

Fwiw? What Judge Hodgman said much more kindly and obliquely than I would have is that the husband is still partially back in Bro Mode, where your primary attachment is to your male cohort, and that the wife is shaming and scolding the husband into behaving as if he isn't. Takes time sometimes for the man to move into the husband role, and brow-beating him doesn't help because that has to follow from internal change, not because he feels guilty because his wife is displeased. Adults don't do things because they are scolded into them, but because they see where their duty lies.

Maybe he won't ever grow up, but she might want to lay off a little and give him time to catch up. Otherwise she is fueling resentment and her role as frowning parent.

Lindsay never would have

Lindsay never would have acceoted the judge's decision if it had gone in John's favor.
[whip sound]

Take care of this right here in Brainerd

Fargo! Fargo! Fargo!

Fargo

The reference was to Fargo, I just hope this is where I'm supposed to comment.