One Bad Mother Episode 16: Support Systems, with guest Eleni Mandell

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One Bad Mother
Eleni Mandell

Biz and Theresa discuss the need for support beyond our own partners and get some wisdom on the topic from singer-songwriter Eleni Mandell -- a single mom to twin toddlers conceived with the help of a sperm donor.

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Show Music
Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (
Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (, also avail on iTunes)
Mom Song, Adira Amran, Hot Jams For Teens (, available on iTunes)
Bun In The Oven, Eleni Mandell, I Can See The Future ( and available on iTunes)
Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans (www.cornbreadted.comand available on iTunes)


Sooooo relevant

This topic touches on a very important issue with modern motherhood, and society at large. Our modern, self-sufficient tech society has stopped us *having* to rely on one another. There is always an agency, a hotline, a website, a business that is there to meet our needs. It has created the illusion that one should never need to call on friends and family for help. That works for adults who are in the prime of their lives, with a salary and position and without kids, but leaves all others out (ie. the elderly, the handicapped, and children/parents of children). It is seemingly shameful and definitely not "cool" to have needs, and people really do tend to roll their eyes and get exasperated when friends (or family) need favors. I think we will all discover this cold streak in our society as we age or if (god forbid) we find ourselves ill or handicapped- but parents with small children, I think, begin to see they have become an inconvenience to their friends and family right away.
Anyway, I have mourned the same issue and don't think it is discussed nearly enough.

Also, you mentioned about parents staying at play dates, etcetera, and not just leaving their kids with others. I think this is less about being overprotective of our kids and much more about feeling that we are overstepping our bounds by asking anyone to be bothered with our kids. And since it is not the "norm" to have a community around anymore, it really is a burden, I believe. We simply do not make time, nor do we expect to have to make time, for others. Kinda' sucks. And the rich relationships that come with having to depend on each other cannot develop under such circumstances.

Oh well, I'm done rambling. Great, great show, by the way! I love you ladies!